How to know when your elderly parent needs assistance at home

There are several signs that may indicate your elderly parent needs assistance at home. If they are having difficulty with activities of daily living such as bathing, dressing, or using the bathroom, this may be a sign they need help. Likewise, if they are forgetful and disoriented, or if their home is becoming cluttered and dirty, these could also be signs that assistance is needed.

If you notice any of these changes in your elderly parents, it's important to have a conversation with them about their needs. They may be resistant to the idea of receiving help, but it's important to reassure them that you just want to make sure they're safe and comfortable.

Changes with mobility

It's important to look for changes in your parents' mobility. Are they having difficulty walking, or getting up from the bed or chair? Are they going outside less or missing out on activities that they used to enjoy? These could be signs that they need help with mobility aids or someone to assist them with activities such as grocery shopping. If their home is becoming difficult for them to move around in, this could also indicate a need for homecare services.

Changes in physical appearance

If they are losing weight or have poor hygiene, this could be a sign of difficulty caring for themselves. Do they have enough food in the cupboards, have they stopped preparing healthy meals? Likewise, if their clothes are dirty or they are wearing the same thing day after day, this could show that they are unable to take care of themselves without support at home.

Cognitive changes

Have you noticed your parents having difficulty with conversation, or forgetting things more often? Do they seem confused or disoriented? These could be signs of a decline in memory or onset of illness. Discussing your concerns with them and speaking to a GP will help to reassure you both by finding the source of the decline. Home care services can help by providing a daily routine and medication management, as well as providing companionship to help reduce feelings of isolation or loneliness.

Changes in mood or behavior

Take note if your parent is withdrawn or has lost interest in activities that used to bring them joy. Do they seem sad, anxious, or angry? Are they sleeping more or having difficulty concentrating? These changes in mood or behavior could be due to a number of things, but if they are accompanied by other changes on this list, it's important to talk to them about the changes that you are noticing.

Illness or health issues

It's also important to consider their current medical conditions and general health. If they have any chronic illnesses or are dealing with multiple health issues, this may make it difficult for them to take care of themselves at home. Similarly, if they are generally frail or weak, this could also indicate a need for homecare. A recent burn or injury is a common sign that they are struggling to manage day-to-day tasks.

Talking to your parents about homecare

For many elders, homecare is a positive step towards maintaining independence that brings about benefits for mental health and wellbeing. It's important to approach the conversation with patience and understanding, and to listen to their thoughts.

Start by expressing your concerns and explain why you think homecare might be necessary. Reassure them that you just want to make sure they are comfortable and can live well in their own home. Allow them to express their own thoughts and feelings on the matter. Ultimately, it will be up to them to decide whether or not they want to receive assistance, but it's important that they are aware of all their options.

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